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Amma Darko: Text 1
I
am sitting behind my table at the office and staring out onto the road and
at the long traffic build up.
The vehicles have been static for the past thirty minutes at least. The road
is under construction. It is the major road from Accra, the nation's capital
city and the capital of the Greater Accra Region, to the Eastern Region. It
is being expanded to accommodate the upsurge in vehicular flow. I am staring
at the back of a man who just left my office. He came to submit a letter
about which I had to make further inquiries to obtain some necessary details
relevant for my judgement of his situation. In the course of my interaction
with him, he burst forth unexpectedly with what seemed like a long in-held
pent up fury. The root of his anger which bordered almost on bitterness, was
his wife. He had even removed his wedding ring in reaction to the disrespect
showed him by his wife, he claimed. And proudly showed me his ringless
finger. We digressed from the main purpose of his visit. His wife, he
insisted, was treating him with gross disrespect and unfairness. She had a
good job in her field; he didn't. They were both university graduates.
His wife had been given a brand new BMW salon car by her company while he
had to make do with their small old car which is a nineties model old Opel
salon car.
He was compelled to stop using the old Opel because it was emitting thick
smoke from the exhaust to the extent that one young police officer once
stopped him and asked if his mother was by chance a fishmonger who had
contracted him to smoke some of her fish for her in his car. As a result he
had now resorted to the use of public transport. The engine of the old Opel
needed to be replaced. He was hoping for someone to take it off his hands
even at a ridiculously low price. Any price at all just to be rid of it. I
asked him curiously what this person he was hoping would take the Old Opel
off his hands could possibly use a car for smoking so badly a policeman
thought he was smoking his mother's fish in it. He replied very
optimistically that he was certain that once the engine was replaced the car
could be used for a taxi.
It was a German car, he added, so the body was strong.
He didn't have the money to replace the engine himself, he declared. And
added bitterly that so while his wife rode in a posh brand new BMW, he had
to make do with waiting by the roadside all the time to hustle for a bus or
tro-tro or taxi. He was very bitter about the fact that his wife was
enjoying the comfort of a new car and he wasn't. It was unacceptable, he
declared, more so that his wife saw nothing wrong with the situation. I
asked him patiently if he would have had it the other way round. He driving
his wife's new BMW while his wife hustled for public transport. He
indirectly framed his agreement with that situation with the enthusiastic
response that he would gladly have been willing to drop off and pick up his
wife from the office everyday. He would also have nothing to feel bitter and
complain about because in between dropping and picking his wife, the BMW
would be at his disposal. With a smile at the corner of my lips I asked him
what was to happen if in between the dropping and picking of his wife at her
office, the wife wanted or needed to go somewhere with the car.
Like rush to get a few things in the market during her lunch break. He
replied that his wife wouldn't be doing that everyday, so the inconvenience
of her hustling for public transport would be only occasional as opposed to
his situation which was on a regular daily basis.
My blood began to boil. But I also sensed that not only was the man
passionate and convinced about the rightness of his thinking but that it was
also deemed the more acceptable norm. The husband rides the car the wife
hustles for the public transport. It is reflective in all aspects of our
lives. I am intrigued.
(Amma
Darko, 30th Dec., 2006)
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